Hello!
This week, you’re finding your own habit.
Specifically, your keystone habit. This was a term coined by habit expert Charles Duhigg, and it is the singular habit that has a ripple effect in your life, leading to a cascade of other good habits.
This week, spend some time figuring out your own keystone habit, and complete this habit every single day.
“If you focus on changing or cultivating keystone habits, you can cause widespread shifts…. They help other habits to flourish by creating new structures, and they establish cultures where change becomes contagious.” - Charles Duhigg
Importance
I’ll let some habit experts explain why this is so important.
"A keystone habit works like a net to catch you every time you fall. No matter what happens, just stick with it — and like a rubber ball, it will help you bounce back, step by step, without ever getting overwhelmed or completely falling off track." - Journal Smarter
This will be the habit that makes all other habits easier. If you do this one, singular habit, the rest will fall into place. It will help you get back on track.
“Improving your lifestyle and becoming the type of person who “has their act together” isn’t nearly as hard as you might think. In fact, you might need just one keystone habit before the dominoes start falling everywhere.” - James Clear
This isn’t a huge habit; often these are small things in our routine. But the idea is that you will do this one habit every single day. If you don’t do anything else but this habit, that’s okay. You will be successful if you can do just this one small thing. Day in and day out. This is how we make health simple.
“Whenever you want to create meaningful change in your life, forget about Herculean efforts. Instead, aim for small but consistent progress. If you do, you’ll allow compounding to work its magic. And, over time, all of your small efforts will produce incredible results.” - Patrik Edblad
We don’t need to do everything right in a day. We just need to do one thing right, and this will set us on a trajectory for huge success.
Implementation
First, we need to find our keystone habit.
For some, this will be a simple process. Maybe you already know your keystone habit. For others, it might take a bit of digging.
“What are you doing when everything falls into place?” - James Clear
Your answer is likely your keystone habit. Think about the days where everything flows smoothly and you feel like you’re excelling at life; you’re doing all the things that look like success to you. Maybe you woke up feeling rested, went for a walk, ate healthy food, and were happy and patient with your loved ones.
Here are some further questions to help you find your keystone habit.
What one habit gives you a small sense of victory, or a small win?
“Look for those patterns that give you numerous, small senses of victory; places where momentum can start to build.” - Charles Duhigg
What one habit provides a platform on which other habits can grow?
What habit can form a base for other good habits? For example, exercise as a habit generally leads to eating better and sleeping better. Journaling in the morning usually leads to more productivity during the day.
What one habit gives you the most energy and confidence that you can achieve anything?
Is there one habit that changes how you feel about yourself, and gives you insight into the potential that exists for your ideal life?
Some examples of common keystone habits are:
Waking up early
Exercise
Reading
Writing
Meditation
Journaling
But this habit can be anything. It’s highly individual, and you need to pay attention to what happens when you complete the habit. Does everything fall into place? Do you feel good about yourself?
You also want this habit to be relatively small and simple - something you can complete each day without a huge amount of effort.
Then, we need to complete this habit consistently. Ideally, every single day. If this isn’t possible, apply the Two-Day Rule, which states you must not skip a habit two days in a row. One day is okay. Your momentum will keep going. But two days is too many.
Make an agreement with yourself to stick with this for at least one month. See what happens. If you’re not experiencing the results you want, rethink your keystone habit. Once you find it, you’ll know. Everything will fall into place and will become easier.
To help with this, I recently discovered an aptly named habit tracking app called Momentum. It is free for up to 3 habits (which is plenty for you to focus on each day, and right now we’re just focusing on one) and is simple to use.
Make it easy for yourself - if your habit is exercising when you wake up, get your clothes and water bottle ready the night before. If you’re going to journal, put your journal and pen in your journaling spot. We want to reduce the resistance as much as we possibly can.
Keep in touch
Stay in touch with me and the rest of the Momentum community. You can find us on the Momentum Facebook page and the Momentum Instagram page.
Feel free to post your keystone habit, or ask for advice or guidance if you need it. I will put up some further resources on the Facebook page that you can check out if you want to read more.
This resonated very strongly with me. I am handicapped and trying to discover new directions in life. The idea of a keystone habit provides me with a goal that doesn’t change. Thank you. P.S. Your piece on 5 changes you would recommend is also helpful. Tim Reilly